What a Trans Person can teach us all about Humanity

 Its been nearly 25 years ago since I first found online chat and gaming which lead to an addiction of both. Fortunately, computers went obsolete so fast I could not afford to keep buying a fast enough computer to keep gaming, so my time waster turned to political chat. 
Politics is likely the only A  I received in high school and the only class I did not fall asleep in. The Teacher even remarked that I was the only student who actually enjoyed his class.
Fast forward a few years and that Political chat room I would waste countless hours arguing and just having fun.
It would bless me with several people in my life whom I would talk to for years after that program went by the wayside. Two of those chatters have since passed so I can say with certainty they were lifetime friends.
But this is about Trans and as far as I know one of my first exposures to that "Ideal" never mind the Girl on our high school football team, she was built like a boy and played as well as one so she does not count. Oddly despite being MT, none of us cared.
It probably is at this point I will confess I don't really understand the Transexual/Transvestite nonsense and I hope I never do. In fact, after I am done with this post I hope it is irrelevant to us all.
With that being said Pagan,  someone from Australia whom I shall use her online name may even be a Hermaphrodite, I dono and do not care.
I do know this, Politically we are mostly polar opposites and we argued like it day in and day out until it came out she had her own BDSM service which oddly I felt was my business to know about.
Really it was no one's but if nothing else to ridicule her for it as it was then I found out her sexual identity was in question.
I'm not really sure to date why I cared about either, maybe it was Faux news, maybe just something to mock, but I did. 
The point is over the years we both chatted with a mutual person online named Katie, whom we both would meet in person.
I have always been pretty good about not caring whom someone else was friends with but after Pagan's visit to America, I did ask Katie what it was. She pretty much made clear it was none of my business, and she was right it was not.
Katie lived in AZ and after about eight years of chatting I met her at a medieval event, I was participating in called n"Estrella" in Pheonix.
She had a bubbly amazing personality online and was such a special person in my life I will do a blog regarding her and some others.
We stayed friends over the years as Katie did with Pagan.
Now if you are wondering, there was nothing sexual, Katie was deeply in love with her soul mate but was open minded and liked Pagan as a friend.
Katie was one of those people who could not catch a break and after losing her Partner to cancer she would end up with it as well, just a few months later.
She and Paul were never married and she was not entitled to his pension or SS so things were hard on her with America's often cruel medical system she would find herself on Chemo, unable to work all the while having her things repossessed.  
Times like this are when you find out who your friends are and many of those in-person went absent.
She had another mutual friend, Rodney  from the same chat room and another state fly in to help and if that was not incredible enough, Pagan would fly in from Australia to as Katie put it "Hold my hair back while I puked in the toilet"so few friends would step up
I was Gobsmacked, having cared for my Terminal father I knew how few people not only understood what caring for a sick person was but how few would step up to help. 
Katie would beat that round of cancer and live a few more years to only pass from another form, through that time she shared a close friend to Pagan.
So Pagan as I said I do not understand your lifestyle choices and like most and  I do not understand the chemistry in your body, but damn, hold your head up high, you are what all people should aspire to be, a true humanitarian and beyond that a True Friend.
I hope from this, you the reader learn that some things are not our business and those going through things we do not understand are still humans too. Sometimes better humans than we ourselves and why not, they have had to deal with not only being ostracized from society but their families too.